When Work Isn't the Priority

When work isn’t the priority

Life can throw us into unexpected emotional turbulence, leaving us grappling with how to manage our personal struggles while maintaining professional responsibilities. I learned this the hard way when I once lost a horse I loved. Despite the fact that I was devastated I felt compelled to go to work, reasoning that a “non-human loss” wasn’t a sufficient excuse to stay home. However, my unresolved grief and emotional state changed the atmosphere of the entire office.

This incident illuminated a powerful insight: leaders—whether they hold formal titles or lead by example—are emotional barometers. Their energy can uplift or bring down those around them.

Prioritising Yourself is Not Selfish

One of the hardest lessons to learn, especially in a leadership role, is the importance of giving yourself permission to step back. Whether it’s grief over the loss of a loved one (human or animal), a personal crisis, or a day when mental health takes a toll, it is vital to take time to heal and recharge.

Me showing up to work that day did no one any favours. The attempt to push through resulted in diminished productivity and a negative emotional ripple effect.

Why Self-Care Matters

The lesson is clear: self-care isn’t just a personal benefit; it’s a professional imperative. When you show up at work when you're unwell—emotionally or physically—you aren't performing at your best. Moreover, you can unintentionally affect the morale and energy of those around you.

Prioritising your mental and physical health isn't a sign of weakness; it’s a courageous act of self-awareness. It shows emotional intelligence and respect for the people who depend on you.

Practical Takeaways

1. Recognise Your Limits: Listen to your body and emotions. Acknowledge when you’re not in a state to contribute effectively.
2. Create Space for Healing: Taking a day—or even more if necessary—to process grief or rejuvenate your mental health can be transformative.
3. Lead by Example: Leaders have the power to normalise self-care. By modelling vulnerability and prioritising well-being, they encourage others to do the same.
4. Communicate Openly: Let your team or colleagues know when you need a break. This transparency fosters a culture of understanding and respect.

A Lasting Reminder

We all have moments when we’re not at our best. Instead of forcing ourselves to carry on, we must grant ourselves permission to pause. 

Some days, it’s okay to put yourself first. Your mental, physical, and emotional health matter—not just for you, but for everyone you influence.

Let this be your reminder to embrace self-care unapologetically. It’s not just okay; it’s necessary.